Designing a Kitchen Takes Time—And That’s a Good Thing

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If you’ve ever found yourself knee-deep in kitchen decisions and wondering why on earth this is taking so long—you’re not alone. Myself included, it has taken me years to decide how to make my kitchen feel more like us. When we moved into our home six years ago, the kitchen was already modern and sleek, and while I appreciated its clean look, over time I’ve found myself wanting it to feel warmer, softer, and just a bit more us.

Current Kitchen Layout

I went through multiple layout ideas—everything from knocking down walls to adding islands. At one point I redesigned the entire kitchen in a fit of inspiration, only to stress myself out with all the moving parts (designer tip: even we get overwhelmed with our own homes!). Eventually, I realized something important: our current layout works just fine. What really needed to change wasn’t the structure—it was the feeling.

So instead of a full gut, we’re updating the backsplash, cabinet hardware, lighting, and wall color. All these updates are cosmetic but impactful—and they let us keep the elements we love, like our oversized farmhouse table that technically doesn’t fit the space but brings me joy every day. My husband is relieved (and so am I), because I couldn’t find a layout I loved enough to give that table up.

This 9' Table has had my heart the last 14 years

This process has reminded me how easy it is to get caught up in renovation stress. Kitchens are the heart of the home, and a kitchen renovation is no small task. There are so many decisions—from cabinet styles and countertop edges to lighting placement and outlet counts. It’s a lot. And it takes time. Honestly? It should take time.

Designing a kitchen isn’t just about picking finishes and calling it a day. A truly functional, beautiful kitchen comes together when the entire palette is considered as one—paint, backsplash, cabinet tones, countertops, hardware, and lighting. I approach every kitchen design as a whole room story, not a checklist. That’s why the renderings are key. They help you see the space before it’s built, and they make decision-making so much easier. Clients always tell me they didn’t realize how much they needed that visual clarity until they saw the render.

If you’re just starting out, or already in the messy middle, my Kitchen & Bath Renovation Guide (available on Amazon!) might be your new best friend. It’s packed with real design tips, measurement cheat sheets, and guidance to help you stay organized and confident throughout your renovation.

Kitchen & Bath Renovation Guide on Amazon!

At the end of the day, the most important thing you need for a kitchen renovation is patience. And a solid plan. That first design step can feel daunting, but once it clicks, everything else starts to fall into place. You’ve got this.

Happy Decorating,